by sgpt » Mon Aug 01, 2011 7:13 pm
Hi. I understand your feelings completely. My boyfriend of 4 years went to rehab (21 day inpatient) earlier this year. He did very well for just about 90 days. He has been having more and more "bad days" again. I had to send him to a hotel just now because I can't deal with his negative behavior when he is drinking. I am very angry right now and don't understand what brings him to this. I am also sad. He is such a wonderful person when he is sober. However, I am not sure how much more I can take. I feel like I am giving up, but I can't seem to help him. I know he has to help himself. I was looking for al-anon meetings and came across this message board and decided to join. This is my first post. Although I am no expert, your anger seems completely normal. I have been reading a lot and the clear message that I have gotten is that when the person is drinking/using, there is nothing you can do. You can't even reason with them or have a normal conversation. Has your sister gone to formal, inpatient rehabs? I know there are some detox centers right here in Philly, but I am sure they are not free. The person has to want to get better. Maybe the two of you can attend a meeting together? Good luck
Hi. I understand your feelings completely. My boyfriend of 4 years went to rehab (21 day inpatient) earlier this year. He did very well for just about 90 days. He has been having more and more "bad days" again. I had to send him to a hotel just now because I can't deal with his negative behavior when he is drinking. I am very angry right now and don't understand what brings him to this. I am also sad. He is such a wonderful person when he is sober. However, I am not sure how much more I can take. I feel like I am giving up, but I can't seem to help him. I know he has to help himself. I was looking for al-anon meetings and came across this message board and decided to join. This is my first post. Although I am no expert, your anger seems completely normal. I have been reading a lot and the clear message that I have gotten is that when the person is drinking/using, there is nothing you can do. You can't even reason with them or have a normal conversation. Has your sister gone to formal, inpatient rehabs? I know there are some detox centers right here in Philly, but I am sure they are not free. The person has to want to get better. Maybe the two of you can attend a meeting together? Good luck