by Hope-less » Mon Aug 27, 2012 1:24 pm
I absolutely agree with the previous post! You are not tied into this relationship - not married, no kids, no legal committment. He needs to WANT to change hisself. I am in the same shoe as you, husband has been using for the past 3 years after a medical condition. He NEVER used before and was the swestest, most caring person. We;ve been togetehr for 13 years and the past 3 have been an emotional rollarcoaster. I am at my wits end and have finally put my foot down. I am even considering divorce because I do NOT want to live my life in fear of how he will be emotionally that day or if perosnal belongings will go missing or money will be stolen form my bank account. You have the free opportunity to walk out with no connections, no ties. Your family is looking out for your best interest. You can't close your eyes ot his comments and actions. Alcoholism and drug use is no excuse for being treated poorly and being ebused, whetehr emotionally, mentally, physically. The worst thing you can do for him is ignore the problema nd chalk it up to his addiction. The best thing you can do is stare it in the face, confront it and stand up for yourself. Perhaps that will make him open his eyes to his disease and what he can loose. Good luck! Stay safe.
I absolutely agree with the previous post! You are not tied into this relationship - not married, no kids, no legal committment. He needs to WANT to change hisself. I am in the same shoe as you, husband has been using for the past 3 years after a medical condition. He NEVER used before and was the swestest, most caring person. We;ve been togetehr for 13 years and the past 3 have been an emotional rollarcoaster. I am at my wits end and have finally put my foot down. I am even considering divorce because I do NOT want to live my life in fear of how he will be emotionally that day or if perosnal belongings will go missing or money will be stolen form my bank account. You have the free opportunity to walk out with no connections, no ties. Your family is looking out for your best interest. You can't close your eyes ot his comments and actions. Alcoholism and drug use is no excuse for being treated poorly and being ebused, whetehr emotionally, mentally, physically. The worst thing you can do for him is ignore the problema nd chalk it up to his addiction. The best thing you can do is stare it in the face, confront it and stand up for yourself. Perhaps that will make him open his eyes to his disease and what he can loose. Good luck! Stay safe.