by Lost_Husban » Fri Jul 06, 2012 10:07 am
A little back ground:
Married 15 years, good marriage. She is my best friend, my only confidente. We are both 45yo .
2 kids – 15yo son, 20 yo step daughter (hers) in collage
She has suffers from Bipolar depression her whole adult life and has been to many therapists
2 years ago she had bariatric surgery
Were both professional and my wife has 2+ master degrees in education (she is very smart, not only book smart, but wise)
Last August while taking my son to the doctors she had a break down at the doctors office and she was admitted to an acute physiatric care unit for 3 days. After they released her she went to intensive outpatient treatment, for a while but stopped going and started drinking again. IT spun out of control fast and attempted suicide (kind of, she took a bunch of effexor). She went to another facility for about a week which treats both, addition and physiatric. She got out, was good for a few months, but started drinking again and taking my son’s ADHE meds.
Fast forward to now…She was holding it together for awhile, but the last month or so her drinking was getting worse, up to 3 or bottles of wine a day. She’s a teacher and doesn’t work in the summer, so she has endless time and ends up drinking all day.
She realized she has a drinking problem, and signed up for am alcohol rehabilitation program at the local collage. The therapist said she had to be clean to participate, so she went into a detox facility for 5 days, but 3 days in, they recommended a 30 day rehab in Florida, they flew her down yesterday and has been admitted.
That’s where I am and I feel completely lost. She is my best friend and I don’t know what to do. I wonder around the house aimlessly not knowing what do. My daughter is fine, in and out of the out, but my son doesn’t have many friends so we do a lot of things together. I try to put a smile on my face and I want to do fun things with him, but I have zero motivation.
Does anyone else have any similar experiences. How did you cope. I'm completely lost
A little back ground:
Married 15 years, good marriage. She is my best friend, my only confidente. We are both 45yo .
2 kids – 15yo son, 20 yo step daughter (hers) in collage
She has suffers from Bipolar depression her whole adult life and has been to many therapists
2 years ago she had bariatric surgery
Were both professional and my wife has 2+ master degrees in education (she is very smart, not only book smart, but wise)
Last August while taking my son to the doctors she had a break down at the doctors office and she was admitted to an acute physiatric care unit for 3 days. After they released her she went to intensive outpatient treatment, for a while but stopped going and started drinking again. IT spun out of control fast and attempted suicide (kind of, she took a bunch of effexor). She went to another facility for about a week which treats both, addition and physiatric. She got out, was good for a few months, but started drinking again and taking my son’s ADHE meds.
Fast forward to now…She was holding it together for awhile, but the last month or so her drinking was getting worse, up to 3 or bottles of wine a day. She’s a teacher and doesn’t work in the summer, so she has endless time and ends up drinking all day.
She realized she has a drinking problem, and signed up for am alcohol rehabilitation program at the local collage. The therapist said she had to be clean to participate, so she went into a detox facility for 5 days, but 3 days in, they recommended a 30 day rehab in Florida, they flew her down yesterday and has been admitted.
That’s where I am and I feel completely lost. She is my best friend and I don’t know what to do. I wonder around the house aimlessly not knowing what do. My daughter is fine, in and out of the out, but my son doesn’t have many friends so we do a lot of things together. I try to put a smile on my face and I want to do fun things with him, but I have zero motivation.
Does anyone else have any similar experiences. How did you cope. I'm completely lost