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Re: I am tired!!

Post by Agavered » Sat Mar 22, 2014 1:12 am

Talk to him very sincerely. He might need a help, don't get tired because the only person who can help him right now is you.

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Post by Godzilla59 » Sun Feb 09, 2014 9:54 am

This is my first time here you are not alone my life would be great if I did not have to compete with the BOTTLE I am also tired Praying for all of us

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Post by nomorepromises » Tue Jan 07, 2014 9:55 pm

my husband was sober for 3 years before we meant. we have been together for 6 and married for three. last year he started. first it was slow (one a week) then it turned to every other day, now it's constant. He has promised to quit several times, but he doesn't last more than two day. I reached out to his family, kids, mom sisters; no one can help. 'I've argued, sulked, screamed, refuse to talk to him and told him he needs to leave. I'm sure you are all aware tat nothing helps. So what can you do?

Re: I am tired!!

Post by hurting38 » Wed Jan 01, 2014 1:27 am

I would love to chat,I am new to this ,and posted my " question" nobody gave me opinion,advice,I was hoping to get some answers,comforting,relief .... :(

Re: I am tired!!

Post by Seeking Sanity » Tue Nov 19, 2013 8:00 pm

Wow...I have found some kindred spirits. My husband had a seizure over the summer after progressively heavier and heavier drinking I suspected drug use as well. He was unemployed for almost 18 months and things just spiralled. I had hoped it would be his rock bottom, it was a bad seizure and I convinced him to go to rehab but slowly hes back to his old ways. I echo the sentiment about the lying. It tears me apart and to him if he isnt cheating on me he doesnt understand a "little" lie or ommission about drinking being damaging. Im losing my mind wondering where he is, is he drinking, will he seize. I look everywhere for alcohol and just recently found his vodka stash after he swore he was clean not less than 2 weeks ago. I dont know if I should even bother confronting him....to what end? What does it matter? It is slowly killing me mentally, emotionally, physically but he refuses to acknowledge how it has any effect on me since he isnt a mean drunk. Nevermind that I have had to support our family because he cannot be relied on to do it. I go to alanon and it helps some but I just live each day so sadly and full of anxiety. I just wish he would see what he is doing to our marriage.

Re: I am tired!!

Post by millerl » Sat Aug 31, 2013 8:05 pm

I hate weekends too. It hurts me, and my kids. He goes out during the day and doesn't return until after we are asleep. Sometimes not until morning. I am so lonely. I never go anywhere or do anything. He doesn't do the family thing, because he wants to spend his day at the bar or with his buddies getting drunk. I am so tired, and exhausted of feeling like this. I just can't take it. I've been thinking about just leaving my house with the kids and getting an apartment. I don't even care if the house sells or forecloses. But in reality I am too chicken to do it. Why is that? This is not the life I deserve and not a good role model for my children. Just losing all sense of self at this point....


Post by Kimba » Mon Dec 04, 2006 11:01 pm

* or 8:30 will be fine or Sundays. I have meetings this week but next week will be good. Maybe we should have a poll? :D

Post by November_rain » Mon Dec 04, 2006 6:36 pm

Hi Kimba,

Would 8:00 be okay on Tuesdays? Or 8:30? Sunday evening could also be an option.

If anybody is interested in participating in an online chat, please let us know what's most convenient to you. We can try different days and different times.



Post by Kimba » Mon Dec 04, 2006 4:07 pm

I personally work late on Tuesdays but could be abvailable after 8 PM. I can try and access a computer 7 on tuesdays it just would be a slower connection,which is tough with chat rooms. My typing is slow as it is. :wink:

Post by Guest » Mon Dec 04, 2006 6:36 am

Tuesday 7:00 pm would be good for me.

Weekly Chat

Post by Admin » Sun Dec 03, 2006 11:23 pm

I totally agree with you, Kimba. When's the first chat?

For the weekly chat, we are currently thinking about either Tuesday at 7:00 pm EST or Sunday at 7:00 pm EST. If there is a better time please let us know!

Sobriety Online

Post by Guest » Sun Dec 03, 2006 10:33 pm

I totally agree with you, Kimba. When's the first chat?


Post by Kimba » Sun Dec 03, 2006 8:39 pm

I think chats would be a great stress reliever. I am committed to Alanon but sometimes there is too much going on to cover in the short span of time. Now with the holidays I can't get to meetings because of work. The other thing is I think the anonymity(sp?) of chats lets people really be honest in a fun way that you may hold back in face to face meetings.

Post by November_rain » Wed Nov 29, 2006 6:43 am

Hello Guests and Kimba,

I wonder if there are things we could do when our husbands lose it. Al-anon is great, but it's a one or two hour meeting... How about the rest of the time or the weekend?

We're trying to launch a weekly chat room on this site. Would you be interested in participating? To vent, to talk, to share.

Let me know how you all feel about it.


November rain

Weekend drunks

Post by Kimba » Mon Nov 27, 2006 5:28 pm

Anonymous wrote:
November_rain wrote:Hi Guest.

I feel for you. You say that you are afraid you'll push him further to drink if you're the "nagging wife". You know what? Don't think for a minute that he's drinking because of you. Alcoholics drink because they're addicted. You can be nice, you can be bad, you can go, you can stay, it won't change a damn thing. That's the power of that disease (if it is one).

Have you tried to go to alanon? It's a safe place where you can vent. Keep in touch.

Hi, This is my first time chatting, but my husband admits he has a problem, he doesn't hide it, he doesn't care who he is drunk around. He is a great person, but I only have a relationship with him from Mon-Thursday. He is a weekend alcoholic. I have been living with this for 18 years, it has hurt my children as well as many other people.

Ahhh,the joys of the weekend drunk. My BF makes no bones about his once a week slips. He attends AA meetings regularly but refuses a sponsor. Why? Because he enjoys having that one day slip with no one to answer to. I always know when he does it and it makes me angry that he lies to himself~ that this is unacceptable. When he slips he starts with abusive emails or phone calls to anyone and everyone. They are left baffled as to why he did this while I know exactly why.
Just had to vent. Sometimes the occasional alcoholic is more baffling than the daily abuser.