by formeraddict » Mon Aug 08, 2011 8:10 am
hi, i know exactly what you are going through. my boyfriend ad i met in rehab. which probably isn't the best place to meet a man, but he was awesome at first we were both sober we got an apartment and were living together we got jobs, everything was awesome. then one night he came home with crack, something i have never even seen but that was his drug of choice. of course he talked me into it and i tried it and loved it. we continued to get high for about a monh and lost everything. ended up selling everything in our house and got evicted. we then were too stubborn to leave each other because we were in love so we were homeless. litterally living in a train station or wherever was warm then and begging for money to eat and drink. we were homeless for about 2 months then his dad finally took us in. literally a week later i found out i was pregnant. i got my old job back as a waitress and was at work one night when i got a phone call that he was in jail bc he went out and got drunk and fought a cop. this went on and on for months. he would leave get high for a week or 2 and i wouldnt hear from him. it was horible i would never wish that on anyone. but im going to tell u as an addict we are totally different people when we are clean and sober. now he went back to rehab in march and i was about 7 months pregnant. i thank god every day for this day that he is sober and we are still together and have a family. but i had to basically give him that altematum, get sober or no baby. and by the grace of god he has been sober for almost 5 months. but it is always in the back of my mind, is he going to run off again and my son will not have a father. i am so affraid he will go out the next time and i will get that call that he is dead. it scares me to death. if he wants help, he will get it. if not there is no way you can make him. it is really sad but when someone is wrapped up in the game, it is so hard to get out. some people go and never come back. so i am going to tell you this, i wish i would have let go. i love him more than anything, but i wish i would have moved on and we could have just been friends. like i said everything is great now but it is always in the back of my head that he will relapse and never come back to us. my advice to you is to go to ALANON or NARANON meetings they will teach you how to cope with everything that is going on. they will teach you how to say no and to just be supportive of him getting the help he needs.
hi, i know exactly what you are going through. my boyfriend ad i met in rehab. which probably isn't the best place to meet a man, but he was awesome at first we were both sober we got an apartment and were living together we got jobs, everything was awesome. then one night he came home with crack, something i have never even seen but that was his drug of choice. of course he talked me into it and i tried it and loved it. we continued to get high for about a monh and lost everything. ended up selling everything in our house and got evicted. we then were too stubborn to leave each other because we were in love so we were homeless. litterally living in a train station or wherever was warm then and begging for money to eat and drink. we were homeless for about 2 months then his dad finally took us in. literally a week later i found out i was pregnant. i got my old job back as a waitress and was at work one night when i got a phone call that he was in jail bc he went out and got drunk and fought a cop. this went on and on for months. he would leave get high for a week or 2 and i wouldnt hear from him. it was horible i would never wish that on anyone. but im going to tell u as an addict we are totally different people when we are clean and sober. now he went back to rehab in march and i was about 7 months pregnant. i thank god every day for this day that he is sober and we are still together and have a family. but i had to basically give him that altematum, get sober or no baby. and by the grace of god he has been sober for almost 5 months. but it is always in the back of my mind, is he going to run off again and my son will not have a father. i am so affraid he will go out the next time and i will get that call that he is dead. it scares me to death. if he wants help, he will get it. if not there is no way you can make him. it is really sad but when someone is wrapped up in the game, it is so hard to get out. some people go and never come back. so i am going to tell you this, i wish i would have let go. i love him more than anything, but i wish i would have moved on and we could have just been friends. like i said everything is great now but it is always in the back of my head that he will relapse and never come back to us. my advice to you is to go to ALANON or NARANON meetings they will teach you how to cope with everything that is going on. they will teach you how to say no and to just be supportive of him getting the help he needs.