by patti b » Mon Dec 19, 2011 3:11 pm
My 42 yr old brother has been struggling with drugs/alcohol for years. He has gotten worse in the last year and his wife and children have left him. His house is in foreclosure and he has no job. My parents give him money and are always there to take care of him. He has threatened suicide 2x this years and has been involunterally admitted and spend 12 days in a behavioral hospital. He will not admit he needs help. He had been seeing 5 different psy. doctors and getting multiple perscriptions.
On Thanksgiving he acted out and and was screaming and telling his siblings that he never wanted to see them again, he was very inapropriate in front of his child and her cousins.
My parents (78 and 79 yrs. old) do not understand why the siblings (3 sisters and 1 brother) do not want to invite him to xmas dinner or go to my parents where he will be. How can we help my parents understand why we don't want to be around him and it is not personal towards them? Are we doing the right or wrong thing? My parents think we are not being kind to him and forgiving - although he has never asked for our forgiveness. Is there some kind of a group we can join?
I am ready to stop talking to my parents because when I do, it just ends up in a fight. We need help!! where can we turn? Thanks, we are desperate!!!
My 42 yr old brother has been struggling with drugs/alcohol for years. He has gotten worse in the last year and his wife and children have left him. His house is in foreclosure and he has no job. My parents give him money and are always there to take care of him. He has threatened suicide 2x this years and has been involunterally admitted and spend 12 days in a behavioral hospital. He will not admit he needs help. He had been seeing 5 different psy. doctors and getting multiple perscriptions.
On Thanksgiving he acted out and and was screaming and telling his siblings that he never wanted to see them again, he was very inapropriate in front of his child and her cousins.
My parents (78 and 79 yrs. old) do not understand why the siblings (3 sisters and 1 brother) do not want to invite him to xmas dinner or go to my parents where he will be. How can we help my parents understand why we don't want to be around him and it is not personal towards them? Are we doing the right or wrong thing? My parents think we are not being kind to him and forgiving - although he has never asked for our forgiveness. Is there some kind of a group we can join?
I am ready to stop talking to my parents because when I do, it just ends up in a fight. We need help!! where can we turn? Thanks, we are desperate!!!