abclimo Hello
my husband informed me that he would be home on the 24th and not the 28th as agreed.
re: because his knee has swollen up and it hurts to walk on it. He said he eats in his room and only leaves for group.
I asked him why had they not sent him to the hospital and he said.
One of the patients was sent to the hospital with almost the same condition as his and came back to the program with "perkersets" my husband claim the man was high and gave some out.
I aked my husband if he had taken any pills he said "no" everyone who did was kicked out.
I asked my husband if he had been given any asprin, he told me "yes" but said they make him sleep and they
don't take the pain away.
I suggested that he get a wheel chair. He said they offered but he did not want it and said some rude things
I explained to my husband that if it were an emergency they would have no choice but to take him to the emergency.
I also went on to remind him that if he did not complete his program as agreed that i would leave as he would be walking in.
He became annoyed and said, " I will not kill my self in here, fine you don't have to leave, there are plenty of places i can go.
He then slam the phone down in my ear. I decided to keep the phone off the hook.
I called afamily meeting and when it was over my daughter agreed that if we had to move to live with Darnell and his wife ( My son and Jessica) we would.
After the meeting was over I placed the phone back on the hook and would'n you know it , it rang.
I picked it up and heard my husbands voice, I slammed it back down.
The phone rang again, This time when I heard his voice he was apologying for slamming the phone in my ear.
He went on to say that he would stay till the end of the program. he finish by saying that he would suck it up because he had put us through so much.
My responce: I still don't understand why they won't send you to the hospital .
He was quite and then claim that sombody wanted to use the phone.
We said our goodbyes
abclimo,
that was real hard for me. I was so drained that I slept for an hour. I can't carry him. I have my own " stuff"
I' have codependecy issuse. I am trying so hard not to control every second of the day
then I have child abuse issues I am working on..... "no" and to top it off I am trying not to drink.... I have not taking a drink in four years. and it's hard. speaking of hard, I don't even know what to say to him when he gets home, should we go to a meeting? or should I just sit back and let him lead.
thanks for all your help
May God bless you and those you love