by MaggieMayday » Thu Aug 20, 2009 1:00 pm
I have been dating my guy for 8 months. I knew something was going on in his life, but couldn't quite figure it out... until he came over to "talk" 2 weeks ago, and told me he was going to rehab, because he couldn't stop and needed help.
He's been using for about a year, started off on vicadin, moved up to oxies. I don't know the extent of his drug use, but he was definitely dropping a couple hundred bucks a week (his mom told me, she's not dealing too well either). The kicker is, I really do care for him, and if I didn't love him, I wouldn't still be here, trying to figure out how to support him as he tries to kick his habit. I'm glad he's in rehab, that he realized he couldn't do this alone, and is trying to get himself straight, but I just need someone to talk to.
Is NA right for me? Can I go without him? Will they think I'm nuts? 8 months doesn't sound like a long time, but before he told me about his use, I could see myself with him forever. Now I'm terrified of relapse, the future, everything. I told my parents, and they're being supportive, but are worried about their little girl dating a junkie. Hell, I would be too.
I didn't ask for this, but I know he didn't either. He's a good kid with an awful disease. I just need some words or wisdom to keep me going. This is going to be a long, hard road out of hell, for many of us and especially him.
I have been dating my guy for 8 months. I knew something was going on in his life, but couldn't quite figure it out... until he came over to "talk" 2 weeks ago, and told me he was going to rehab, because he couldn't stop and needed help.
He's been using for about a year, started off on vicadin, moved up to oxies. I don't know the extent of his drug use, but he was definitely dropping a couple hundred bucks a week (his mom told me, she's not dealing too well either). The kicker is, I really do care for him, and if I didn't love him, I wouldn't still be here, trying to figure out how to support him as he tries to kick his habit. I'm glad he's in rehab, that he realized he couldn't do this alone, and is trying to get himself straight, but I just need someone to talk to.
Is NA right for me? Can I go without him? Will they think I'm nuts? 8 months doesn't sound like a long time, but before he told me about his use, I could see myself with him forever. Now I'm terrified of relapse, the future, everything. I told my parents, and they're being supportive, but are worried about their little girl dating a junkie. Hell, I would be too.
I didn't ask for this, but I know he didn't either. He's a good kid with an awful disease. I just need some words or wisdom to keep me going. This is going to be a long, hard road out of hell, for many of us and especially him. :twisted: