by abclimo » Wed Jan 18, 2012 12:24 pm
Hi and welcome to the new members here! I completely understand about going to a meeting and being very nervous. Not all meetings are the same. Please find another one near you and go to it, or find several more and go to them. I had picked out 6 in my area and ruled out 3 after a first visit to them, the other 3 are fantastic meetings filled with very caring people who want to help others stay clean/sober and to recover. When you go to a first meeting that you feel comfortable at, ask some others what other meetings are good to go to, they'll be happy to help you with that. You didn't say whether your problem is drugs and/or alcohol, but it doesn't really make a huge difference, other than the process of detoxing. When you are new to a meeting they will ask if it's anyone's first meeting and they ask you to give your name. You won't have to share if you don't want to, all you have to do is say "pass" and no one will think any less of you. They have all been in the same place where you are, as have so many of us here. Please keep posting here, if that is what you are most comfortable doing, we will respond to you because we do care. I recently posted my story because I am hoping that it will help someone who is just starting out. You can find it under drug addiction, and I think I listed the subject as going back to where it all started. You've admitted that you have a problem and when we have a problem of addiction, it never "goes away", but we can learn what to do to control it and also how to manage temptations when they arise, and they will arise. You need to tell yourself everyday that you are worth getting and staying clean/sober. Some people even put it on a post it on their mirror so they see it and their reflection at the same time. Post back and let us know how you are doing!
Hi and welcome to the new members here! I completely understand about going to a meeting and being very nervous. Not all meetings are the same. Please find another one near you and go to it, or find several more and go to them. I had picked out 6 in my area and ruled out 3 after a first visit to them, the other 3 are fantastic meetings filled with very caring people who want to help others stay clean/sober and to recover. When you go to a first meeting that you feel comfortable at, ask some others what other meetings are good to go to, they'll be happy to help you with that. You didn't say whether your problem is drugs and/or alcohol, but it doesn't really make a huge difference, other than the process of detoxing. When you are new to a meeting they will ask if it's anyone's first meeting and they ask you to give your name. You won't have to share if you don't want to, all you have to do is say "pass" and no one will think any less of you. They have all been in the same place where you are, as have so many of us here. Please keep posting here, if that is what you are most comfortable doing, we will respond to you because we do care. I recently posted my story because I am hoping that it will help someone who is just starting out. You can find it under drug addiction, and I think I listed the subject as going back to where it all started. You've admitted that you have a problem and when we have a problem of addiction, it never "goes away", but we can learn what to do to control it and also how to manage temptations when they arise, and they will arise. You need to tell yourself everyday that you are worth getting and staying clean/sober. Some people even put it on a post it on their mirror so they see it and their reflection at the same time. Post back and let us know how you are doing!