by kellyjb319 » Sat Mar 10, 2012 1:20 pm
I didn't understand the Big Book either the first time I looked at it. After rehab I found a sponsor who had been through the 12 steps and she read with me every week and we discussed each chapter. When you read "How it works" your sponsor can show you how each step is broken down very simply. If you do them in order, it is easier to "digest" . Step 3 is a big one because you are surrendering to your higher power. Now your not alone. Each day you surrender your will to "Him" and you can get through, one day at a time. instead of trying to quit forever. Forever is terrifying. One day I can handle, lol. Your sponsor can explain how to make your lists for step 4. a list of resentments, fear, sex inventory, how it affected you and what your part was. This really helped me see things differently and it does pave the way for your list of people you have harmed in step 8. Going in order is important though. Sharing these secrets and being honest with someone-step 5-(like your sponsor), being ready to have God remove your character defects- step 6-(which you saw in step 4) and asking Him to remove them-step 7-, prepares you to make that list of people-step8- to make amends to in step 9. It takes time, prayer, and willingness. You will get there. It's a road to recovery, and your already on it! Great job with 15 days!!It gets easier!
I didn't understand the Big Book either the first time I looked at it. After rehab I found a sponsor who had been through the 12 steps and she read with me every week and we discussed each chapter. When you read "How it works" your sponsor can show you how each step is broken down very simply. If you do them in order, it is easier to "digest" . Step 3 is a big one because you are surrendering to your higher power. Now your not alone. Each day you surrender your will to "Him" and you can get through, one day at a time. instead of trying to quit forever. Forever is terrifying. One day I can handle, lol. Your sponsor can explain how to make your lists for step 4. a list of resentments, fear, sex inventory, how it affected you and what your part was. This really helped me see things differently and it does pave the way for your list of people you have harmed in step 8. Going in order is important though. Sharing these secrets and being honest with someone-step 5-(like your sponsor), being ready to have God remove your character defects- step 6-(which you saw in step 4) and asking Him to remove them-step 7-, prepares you to make that list of people-step8- to make amends to in step 9. It takes time, prayer, and willingness. You will get there. It's a road to recovery, and your already on it! Great job with 15 days!!It gets easier!