by Guest » Sat Dec 13, 2008 4:42 pm
Keep being sober, and keep going to AA meetings. This is YOUR struggle, not hers. It'd be nice to have some support, but ultimately, you're the one in charge. Whether you get any or no support, when you're ready, you'll stay sober because the strength comes from within. You can get all the support in the world, but if you're not ready, you will use again. So do whatever you have to do to get better, and let her do her stuff.
When you're an addict, you affect the people around you. The "Just leave me alone, and I won't bother you" is BS. An addict hurts whatever he/she touches. She's not using detachment as a way to control everything but as a way to control HER LIFE. Like you control yours. So instead of complaining about what she does, focus on getting better, focus on yourself.
Keep being sober, and keep going to AA meetings. This is YOUR struggle, not hers. It'd be nice to have some support, but ultimately, you're the one in charge. Whether you get any or no support, when you're ready, you'll stay sober because the strength comes from within. You can get all the support in the world, but if you're not ready, you will use again. So do whatever you have to do to get better, and let her do her stuff.
When you're an addict, you affect the people around you. The "Just leave me alone, and I won't bother you" is BS. An addict hurts whatever he/she touches. She's not using detachment as a way to control everything but as a way to control HER LIFE. Like you control yours. So instead of complaining about what she does, focus on getting better, focus on yourself.