by kymba » Tue Aug 25, 2009 12:52 pm
joep54321 wrote:I am having a very bad day today. I got my second DUI about 3 weeks ago. I got laid off about 2 weeks ago. At which time I then started going to meetings about 2 weeks ago also. I bought a house with my fiance about 3 years ago and have everything invested in it financially. I am also up to my ass in debt. I am facing house arrest and probably a 1 yr license suspension. I have a 17 yr old daughter that lives with her mom that I need to provide some funds for college for the next 4 yrs. Now I find out that my fiance wants to split up, so we either sell or I have her buy me out. All this is just getting to be to much and I am starting to think about doing some stupid things. I was actually lying in bed last night thinking about what I was going to put in my final letter to everyone. I am on the verge of a nervous breakdown or worse !! Can someone help me??
Hi Joe, I have been in your situation. With two dui's you are going to loose your license longer than a year. I have had a "temporary insane" period in my life and I received 3 dui's (tipped off by my soon to be ex-husband then). I got a lawyer. My house was in foreclosure, my ex took my kids so he wouldn't have to pay me child support. I was abused and stalked. I picked myself up, "tried" to stop drinking but how can one do that in such a horrible situation? I will tell you how. You will most definately need to go to a rehabilitation center to clean yourself up and also to show the courts you are serious. I went for 30 days. After rehab, I searched for a job. Hey, I got one! I also served 48hours in the correctional facility as ordered. After all was said and done, with over 8 grand in fines, what did i do? I Drank! How dumb is that?? I am now sober for 2 years now. I always admitted I was an alcoholic, the problem is, no one could help me unless I wanted to help myself. I can blab on about AA..... its a great program if you need guidance. So Joe, step up to the plate. Get yourself into a rehab. if you can't get yourself into one, commit yourself into a local hospital (I went to Friends in Phila).. they will sober you up, you will meet people in your predicament and go from there. If you are serious. You much admit that YOU need help. Take care, my thoughts are with you. ~ kymba
[quote="joep54321"]I am having a very bad day today. I got my second DUI about 3 weeks ago. I got laid off about 2 weeks ago. At which time I then started going to meetings about 2 weeks ago also. I bought a house with my fiance about 3 years ago and have everything invested in it financially. I am also up to my ass in debt. I am facing house arrest and probably a 1 yr license suspension. I have a 17 yr old daughter that lives with her mom that I need to provide some funds for college for the next 4 yrs. Now I find out that my fiance wants to split up, so we either sell or I have her buy me out. All this is just getting to be to much and I am starting to think about doing some stupid things. I was actually lying in bed last night thinking about what I was going to put in my final letter to everyone. I am on the verge of a nervous breakdown or worse !! Can someone help me??[/quote]
Hi Joe, I have been in your situation. With two dui's you are going to loose your license longer than a year. I have had a "temporary insane" period in my life and I received 3 dui's (tipped off by my soon to be ex-husband then). I got a lawyer. My house was in foreclosure, my ex took my kids so he wouldn't have to pay me child support. I was abused and stalked. I picked myself up, "tried" to stop drinking but how can one do that in such a horrible situation? I will tell you how. You will most definately need to go to a rehabilitation center to clean yourself up and also to show the courts you are serious. I went for 30 days. After rehab, I searched for a job. Hey, I got one! I also served 48hours in the correctional facility as ordered. After all was said and done, with over 8 grand in fines, what did i do? I Drank! How dumb is that?? I am now sober for 2 years now. I always admitted I was an alcoholic, the problem is, no one could help me unless I wanted to help myself. I can blab on about AA..... its a great program if you need guidance. So Joe, step up to the plate. Get yourself into a rehab. if you can't get yourself into one, commit yourself into a local hospital (I went to Friends in Phila).. they will sober you up, you will meet people in your predicament and go from there. If you are serious. You much admit that YOU need help. Take care, my thoughts are with you. ~ kymba