by teatime22 » Thu Feb 16, 2012 3:35 pm
I grew up with alcolism also, my mother still drinks. She has been sober a few times, it never lasted long. I have my own family now and I struggle to maintain our relationship. I am fed up with the lifestyle and problems that surround alcohol. I sometimes want to wash my hands of the situation. I am constantly vigilant that I do not enable. Your mother should not need backup from the family members. If they feel you are being unfair to your mother then they just do not understand; perhaps enabling her as well. I feel my limits have been pushed tooth far. Only we can set those limits. It hurts to do that but tough loveis sometimes the only option today. You made a hard but good choice for yourself. Keep up the good work.
I grew up with alcolism also, my mother still drinks. She has been sober a few times, it never lasted long. I have my own family now and I struggle to maintain our relationship. I am fed up with the lifestyle and problems that surround alcohol. I sometimes want to wash my hands of the situation. I am constantly vigilant that I do not enable. Your mother should not need backup from the family members. If they feel you are being unfair to your mother then they just do not understand; perhaps enabling her as well. I feel my limits have been pushed tooth far. Only we can set those limits. It hurts to do that but tough loveis sometimes the only option today. You made a hard but good choice for yourself. Keep up the good work.