I knew a woman who used to call them 'relationshits'
What does your sponsor say?
One of the definitions/symptoms of untreated alcoholism is self-centered-ness. Tough to have any healthy relationship with that kind of foundation. I would like to, and my sponsor told me I'm ready, but it still frightens me a bit.
I mean, here I'm just getting used to having healthy, somewhat-normal friendships, and I still worry how it will feel to get intimate (not the act, but the relationship part).
The concept about learning to love yourself first is a good one...
Good luck
No one's really got the absolute answers for questions like these, but with peace and meditation you can often figure it out.