Where do I go from here?

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Where do I go from here?

Unread postby bill o » Thu Feb 05, 2009 12:35 pm

I am just going on 6 months sober. My interest in alcohol has been completely removed by my higher power. No mater how much pain I am in or how many tears flow I have not even a thought to pick up. It is amazing that I can look at a bottle and not even notice it. I go to 5 meetings a week plus other self help efforts and am working on the steps. This is the good part.

The down side is that I ruined my marriage and my children, wife and I are hurting. My wife admits she loves me sometimes but will not go out to eat with me or go to church with me etc. We go to marriage counseling separately but she seems to be so shut off it is hard to understand. She needs to be in contact with me and calls frequently and visits the house to pick things up etc. My wife is an ALANON member and I believe she has detached so much that she does not feel much for me and sometimes for our children. I have changed so much and pray for a chance to be a good husband but can not get to try. She states she wants a year apart but what happens then if all she can do is learn how to detach from me.

I also started working on the Love Dare from the movie Fireproof and feel all the good this challenge offers but I can not break through.

Any thoughts and comments are welcome.

Thank you

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Re: Where do I go from here?

Unread postby Guest » Wed Feb 25, 2009 10:34 am

She needs more time. Depending on how old you both are and how long you have been married, there have been so many hurts and disappointments that 6 months is not enough. How does she know your sobriety will last?

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