by fngjess » Tue Nov 02, 2010 8:57 pm
Well, I'm a recovering meth head, and have a little over 5 yrs away from it. I'm now married with 2 little girls(3 yr old and 11mo. old). My husband is an addict alcoholic as well. He was also a drug and alcohol counselor but after a false accusation(yes, it really was false) he lost his job and has been working side jobs for almost a year. He is now drinking again. And I know he knows better but he says he's going to have a beer on occasion. Occasionly isn't going to happen-any addict knows that. Now he is bringing home beer at least once a week. We had an agreement that if one of us relapsed that person would leave the hse,seek treatment, and then work on coming back home. But because he was a counselor himself and knows almost everyone in this area he won't go plus he truly doesn't see why this is all such a big deal? He has Hep C, cirrhosis, and is a multi-striker so one more run in with the law he could be locked up for good. If I didn't see hope I'd leave, I will not allow my girls to see their dad drunk, and so far it hasnt happened. He is just so depressed and hates himself for "failing his family", what do I do? Do I give an ultimatum? Because I want him to stop drinking because he wants to stop. I know you can't force someone to be sober but I need some tips from other male addicts. He's too proud for counseling or antidepressants if needed. Is this just going to be a lost cause and should start packing?