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The wolf of Despair

Unread postby November_rain » Sat Nov 05, 2005 11:53 am

An Indian guru was telling his students about the two wolves that inhabit each and everyone of us. "Inside you and inside me, there is a permanent fight between the wolf of Hope and the wolf of Despair", he said.
One student asked: "Which one will win, Master?".
"The one you feed" was his answer.

While living with an alcoholic, I fed the wolf of Despair. And now, even though my husband quit drinking, it's not easier to feed the wolf of Hope. Trusting him is one of my biggest issues.
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Unread postby Serenity » Mon Nov 07, 2005 11:07 pm

November-rain, That is a nice parable. It's true that life is all about how you perceive it.

Have you tried going to al-anon? There are many people there that have been where you are now.

Good Luck!
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Unread postby November_rain » Tue Nov 08, 2005 9:32 am

Hi Serenity,
Yes, I have tried Al-Anon (different locations), and even though it is a great place to start the healing process, I didn't find what I was looking for. I now see a therapist, and I'm working on my issues. This whole experience (painful as it is) is a great way of growing and learning.
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Unread postby mimi » Sun Feb 19, 2006 7:59 pm

November_rain. I have a question-when does it get easier? It sounds as though your husband has found sobriety. Mine has'nt, and I dont know that he ever will. When does it stop hurting, when will I finally let go. Mimi
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Unread postby November_rain » Tue Feb 21, 2006 12:27 pm

I'm not sure, Mimi, when it gets easier. Maybe things changed for the better when I realized I couldn't do anything for my husband and that I could only work on myself. I also had to decide whether I wanted to stay or leave. Things got easier when I made up my mind. I decided to stay and work with what I had (my emotions, my feelings, my anger, my life).

Please keep in touch if you can.
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