His pain and my pain! Please Help
Posted: Tue Mar 01, 2011 11:54 am
I am dating an amazing man who i was once engaged to about 3 yrs ago. We recently hooked back up this past november and the sparks were still there. Its seems as though the feelings never died. He recently confided in me that he has a problem taking certain pain pills. He was prescribed them 2yrs ago after his car accident and he can't stop taking them. I was alittle shocked to hear this but at the same time i was happy that he noticed his problem. He said that he was going to stop taking them and go to NA meetings. He has been doing good with going to the meetings. But he gets really sick. This is where i do not understand what he is going through. There are times when he can just sleep all day and moan in pain. I try and put myself in his shoes but it is very hard.
I have never really been one to do drugs or drink. I do not understand the affects that it has on his body. There are times when he doesnt want to be touched, held or talked too. He just wants to sleep. This is extremely devasting to me because i feel like he is pushing me away. I think he is making this up so that he can just be done with me. Idk. Its something i have been struggling with for the past 3 weeks. I am to the point where i am tired of feeling unwanted. he just rolls his eyes and he says "only if u knew what i was going through". But i don't and i will never know. My friends are telling me that i should try not to take it personally that he doesnt want to be bothered. That he is fighting himself and his body. I guess i want to know if this is common. I am really not familiar with this at all. I don't know what to do to help him. So I stay and deal with me feeling invisible or leave and let him deal with this? Please Help
I have never really been one to do drugs or drink. I do not understand the affects that it has on his body. There are times when he doesnt want to be touched, held or talked too. He just wants to sleep. This is extremely devasting to me because i feel like he is pushing me away. I think he is making this up so that he can just be done with me. Idk. Its something i have been struggling with for the past 3 weeks. I am to the point where i am tired of feeling unwanted. he just rolls his eyes and he says "only if u knew what i was going through". But i don't and i will never know. My friends are telling me that i should try not to take it personally that he doesnt want to be bothered. That he is fighting himself and his body. I guess i want to know if this is common. I am really not familiar with this at all. I don't know what to do to help him. So I stay and deal with me feeling invisible or leave and let him deal with this? Please Help