Boyfriend has an opiate problem. Not sure how to deal.

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Boyfriend has an opiate problem. Not sure how to deal.

Unread postby MaggieMayday » Thu Aug 20, 2009 1:00 pm

I have been dating my guy for 8 months. I knew something was going on in his life, but couldn't quite figure it out... until he came over to "talk" 2 weeks ago, and told me he was going to rehab, because he couldn't stop and needed help.

He's been using for about a year, started off on vicadin, moved up to oxies. I don't know the extent of his drug use, but he was definitely dropping a couple hundred bucks a week (his mom told me, she's not dealing too well either). The kicker is, I really do care for him, and if I didn't love him, I wouldn't still be here, trying to figure out how to support him as he tries to kick his habit. I'm glad he's in rehab, that he realized he couldn't do this alone, and is trying to get himself straight, but I just need someone to talk to.

Is NA right for me? Can I go without him? Will they think I'm nuts? 8 months doesn't sound like a long time, but before he told me about his use, I could see myself with him forever. Now I'm terrified of relapse, the future, everything. I told my parents, and they're being supportive, but are worried about their little girl dating a junkie. Hell, I would be too.

I didn't ask for this, but I know he didn't either. He's a good kid with an awful disease. I just need some words or wisdom to keep me going. This is going to be a long, hard road out of hell, for many of us and especially him. :twisted:

Re: Boyfriend has an opiate problem. Not sure how to deal.

Unread postby Admin » Thu Aug 20, 2009 7:51 pm


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Re: Boyfriend has an opiate problem. Not sure how to deal.

Unread postby Guest » Fri Aug 21, 2009 1:32 pm

I feel for you, I was in the exact same situation. My advice is take care of yourself. Once my guy came back from rehab, I was so focused on his recovery that I lost myself. Just remember, he has had this addiction longer than he has known you. I'm sure it started way before he picked up a year ago. You need to remember that you can't rescue or protect him, you can only do that for yourself. Stay true to yourself!

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