Do Al-Anon meetings help?
Posted: Thu Aug 04, 2011 9:17 am
I have been in a relationship for a year and a half with an addict. His ex-girlfriend has been a nightmare for the last year and a half and he has let her. He cant shut the door and leaves things vague with her because he loves her child. She is addicted to him. She actually was suicidal last Monday and had a "Gold Alert" out for her with the police.
When she was "found" actually, she called someone and told them she was safe, the only person she gave her address to was my boyfriend. Obviously in hopes he would come save her.
I dont know if he can shut the door but I am trying to get myself to a point where I am not taking all of this personally and realizing that they are co-dependent people.
All of the stress has made me start to drink more to just "numb" myself from all of the stress. I am pulling back on the drinking but
I was wondering if anyone has any advice on Al-Anon and has it helped you to understand you are not the reason nor can you save this person?
I love my boyfriend and I want to make this work. But I need to first learn some coping skills and better understand what addiction is.
Please let me know if you have any advice.
Thank you!
When she was "found" actually, she called someone and told them she was safe, the only person she gave her address to was my boyfriend. Obviously in hopes he would come save her.
I dont know if he can shut the door but I am trying to get myself to a point where I am not taking all of this personally and realizing that they are co-dependent people.
All of the stress has made me start to drink more to just "numb" myself from all of the stress. I am pulling back on the drinking but
I was wondering if anyone has any advice on Al-Anon and has it helped you to understand you are not the reason nor can you save this person?
I love my boyfriend and I want to make this work. But I need to first learn some coping skills and better understand what addiction is.
Please let me know if you have any advice.
Thank you!