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Don't know where to start

Unread postby cherhend » Wed Aug 22, 2012 11:41 am

52 year old wife (30 years married) Mom of 3 grown kids. Grandma of 1. Drinking too much and having a hard time stopping. Any advice would help. Thanks
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Re: Don't know where to start

Unread postby Fifi » Wed Aug 22, 2012 12:53 pm

Hi there. I'm a 37 year old female and I have recently come to the conclusion that my excessive drinking needs to stop. Once I start I cannot stop until I either pass out or the bottle is empty. I don't drink every day, but when I do it's a binge situation. I recently started seeing a therapist who tells me that it takes approximately 4 weeks for the brain's pleasure center to be rewired. I have vowed to start today and stop making excuses. My husband and I are having fertility issues and I'm sure my drinking is not helping things. I'd be happy to be your buddy. Maybe we can help keep each other on track.
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Re: Don't know where to start

Unread postby cherhend » Wed Aug 22, 2012 1:33 pm

Hi.... I'd love to be buddys ! I am the same way. I don't drink everyday...but when I start I have a heck of a time stopping. I had fertility issues as well, that alone is hard on a marriage. My husband and I have talked several times about my drinking. It hurts him deeply, but as he has told me , the choice is all mine. I handle stress by drinking...that only makes it worse. I will stop, I will not let this control me anymore !!!! Please God.
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Re: Don't know where to start

Unread postby Fifi » Wed Aug 22, 2012 4:53 pm

I, too, handle stress and boredom by drinking. I overdid it twice since Saturday so I'm putting my foot down. I'm so tired of feeling miserable about this. One of my favorite modern-day philosophers is Wayne Dyer. He says addiction is never being able to get enough of something you don't want. I agree. So today marks day one of no drinking for me. What about you? I'm in PA by the way. Where do you live?
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Re: Don't know where to start

Unread postby cherhend » Wed Aug 22, 2012 7:34 pm

Fifi,
Last drink on Monday. I hate the way it makes me feel. I am sooooo sick of feeling like I fail at what I'm trying to do. I know I will be ok, but I hate when I let my husband down. I told him I joined this site and he said he was proud of me. I live in PA also. Philly truth be told. Love it here.I know you can be strong !!! Don't let the bottle win. You are stronger and smarter that that. We both made the decision to join this site ...we are strong women and we will kick some butt !!!!! Stay strong...XOXO
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Re: Don't know where to start

Unread postby Fifi » Wed Aug 22, 2012 8:01 pm

I'm in Philly too! Small world, huh? I've been considering going to an AA meeting just to give it a test drive. My first step was to come on here though. Feel free to send me a private message on here anytime. I'd love to be accountable to someone that is in the same boat, share tips, etc... Have a beautiful night! Xxoo :D
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Re: Don't know where to start

Unread postby cherhend » Thu Aug 23, 2012 5:22 pm

Hi Fifi.... Hope your doing well. I have had a great day !! No issues :D ...You have been on my mind .....You can do it.
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Re: Don't know where to start

Unread postby dfm » Fri Aug 24, 2012 12:55 pm

Hello, im a 30 year old male and decided to look up AA meetings when I came across this blog. I am not an everyday drinker, I can stop if I want to. My issue is thatI am always hyper, even sober I am super hyper. So when I drink it only makes me more hyper. Ill drink three or 4 bottles of wine in a jiff. My wife hates it nc I have good episodes and I have bad episodes. My schedule is horrible for work so im off on weekdays while she works, so if i go out with guys that I work with i get bombed. Like yesterday for instance her cousin came over with her boyfriend and wwe had dinner and movie date night, I wasavid about getting trashed and drank 2 bottles of wine in no time. But then everyone went to bed, which in this situation im so hyper I cant sleep and want to do things. So I went to the casino and for the 2nd time in 4months ive blew a substantial amount of money. $700 each time. Though it is not a crazy amount, it makes me feel terrible bc i am now penny pinching until i get my next check. I never go to the casino sober unless we have free meal comps. I guess what im saying is, what do I do. Do i not drink on weekdays when she is off. its tough necause we have a one year old. I can have one or two drinks and shut it down, its just when I put it in my head that im getting drunk and not thihnking of end result do I put my foot in my mouth, and it gives me huge anxiety. If anyone could give me a pointer on how to handle this it would be greatly appreciated. thanks, i also am in delco pa area
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Re: Don't know where to start

Unread postby Fifi » Sat Aug 25, 2012 9:11 am

Thanks! You have been in my thoughts as well. I posted something on Thursday but it didn't show....bummer! Well, I went out Thurs night with my girlfriend to hear a performance. I sat at the bar with her and had water and got a bite to eat. The food helped keep my hands and mouth busy so I wouldn't drink. It felt great to be strong! When I got home she texted me and said she was proud of me :). This weekend will be another challenge. My nephew is in town and we are going to a concert. I'm going to try my best. How are you doing?
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Re: Don't know where to start

Unread postby cherhend » Sat Aug 25, 2012 8:50 pm

GREAT JOB !!! Today is my birthday and al is well. Went to New York last night for the night. Dinner with friends..diet coke. Out with hubby today ..10 mile kayak trip ! Lots of water. I think I'm doing great. Stay strong...Keep the water , diet drinks , iced tea....carrots and other veggies. Watch out for "bar food" ....I love it , tastes sooooo goood, but soo bad for you. Let me know how the weekend was. XOXO
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Re: Don't know where to start

Unread postby Fifi » Wed Aug 29, 2012 10:26 am

Ugh...a bit of a backslide this weekend. Im not going to beat myself up over it, but now I know how easily I can slip up. I'm back on track now. Happy belated birthday and congrats on your success! I'm proud of you...I know that was a real challenge with having a birthday in NYC!
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Unread postby Lisa040610 » Mon Sep 03, 2012 9:02 am

My name is Lisa I am 30 years old and I have a drinking problem. I don't drink everyday but when I do drink I can't stop until I just pass out. I black out when I drink which isn't good. This is the first time I am actually admitting I have a problem. I want to start going to AA meetings in my area but I am so embarrassed to go alone. Any advice?
I am in the Levittown area if anyone knows a good place I could go
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Re: Don't know where to start

Unread postby navysteve95 » Mon Sep 03, 2012 11:01 am

Lisa you can start at the 12 Keys. If you PM me I can give you some female phone numbers of solid women in sobriety who can help. Friday Night at Holy Family College in Northeast Philly has alot of strong women who can help
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Re: Don't know where to start

Unread postby Scared and Alone » Wed Sep 05, 2012 9:16 am

Reading your words made me start crying. I feel so alone trying to quit drinking. Everyone I know abuses alcohol or drugs. I must say that I am the worst out of them all. At least my guilt makes me feel that way. I drink almost every day. I drink to forget, but I have forgotten what I am trying to forget. I have fallen into a drunken rabbit hole. I'm scared I will lose everyone if I stop, but lose them if I don't. This is my first day not drinking. I just wanted to thank you for writing.
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Re: Don't know where to start

Unread postby Scared and Alone » Wed Sep 05, 2012 9:21 am

I live in the Art Museum area. Does anyone know a female in the area that I can talk to? Thanks.
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