I think I have to let my wife go

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I think I have to let my wife go

Unread postby Michael Jeffrey J » Mon May 19, 2014 4:49 am

I have been with my wife for 10 years, married for 3. She has done/said some pretty awful things in that time. She has been pulled over by the cops 3 times (that I know of) and each time they let her call me to pick her up instead of arresting her. I've hung in for so long and I've tried to believe she would do better. Sometimes she'd do well for months at a time. She's mean and nasty when she's drunk. She's been emotionally abusive and now I feel broken. She says she wants a divorce bc I don't pick up after myself enough. I want to help her but I also no there's nothing I can do. I'm so sad. My wife is a good person and I love her but she's sick. It's sad to see her this far gone. She blames me for everything. It hurts but I have to let her go. Problems is I don't want her to self destruct any more than she has. I love her. What can I do? I don't want to just wash my hands of her.
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Re: I think I have to let my wife go

Unread postby Jo-Ann Lampson » Fri Aug 29, 2014 4:11 pm

Wow I feel for you are you recovering or in sobriety ?
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Re: I think I have to let my wife go

Unread postby emack » Tue Sep 02, 2014 2:24 pm

Have you talked to her about her drinking and how it hurts you.There is only so much you can do.It is her who has to want to be helped.Maybe leaving her will be the spark she needs to wake her up and realize she needs help.
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Re: I think I have to let my wife go

Unread postby Guest » Thu Oct 16, 2014 9:28 pm

I read your story . I am in a Very similar situation. I was wondering the outcome, and where you are now in your relationship?
I have been together with my wife over 20 years, married 12. We have a 9 year old daughter....my wife is a Super woman who I love dearly. But she drinks every day after work, without eating anything the entire day. She becomes irrational, abusive, etc. our daughter doesn't deserve any of this..
If not for our baby girl, I would be gone... I know the woman has the rights to the child, if I decide to split..
I feel So Stuck... My wife contends that there is no problem with her actions... Believe me, she becomes a Monster on a daily basis....
I am actually afraid to speak with her most of the time.

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