yaman wrote:you all just sound like a bunch of angry people that are owed something, she wants a solution or answer other then aa, whats wrong with that? NOTHING....just cause you feel lost without your presious dont mean she will, most trivial answers to the most common problems that she talks about. For once i actually fee dumber for reading......LAME!!! LOL
she wants a solution or answer other then aa, whats wrong with that? NOTHINGYou are right. There is nothing wrong with wanting another solution. A solution other than AA, other than reliance on a higher power, other than working to rid ourselves of our defects of character, other than being rigorously honest. Sometimes this is refered to as "an easier, softer way".
EVERYBODY in AA wanted that.
Because the way of AA is work, and it's scary and it might be hard.
The problem is this: The people that are sober in AA have found a solution. After they find a way to stop drinking, and live life on life's terms, and become happy, joyous and free,
they hardly ever keep looking for a solution.Sometimes I lose my car keys. After I find them....I don't look for them anymore. If you are like me, you probably do the same thing.
So yes, if you ask people in recovery what is the answer, most of the time it will be "Go to an AA meeting, read the book, work the steps, get a sponsor".
There has been a program mentioned that I'm not familier with. Will that work? Maybe. I don't know, I've never tried it. If it works for you, then do that program. If you'd like to know about it, you'll want to talk to someone who has done it. (I strongly suspect that they work steps, read liturature, and have sponsors. In other words, work.)
AA is a program of action. The actions have to be taken for the program to work.
Wanting that to be different doesn't
make it different. And meanwhile, people are dying a little more each day, waiting for a different solution. Some are just dying.
The actions to get and stay sober are not ones that you have to take alone, and they are not as difficult as you might imagine. But they do have to be taken if you are an alcoholic that wants a better life. And they give FABULOUS rewards.