These past few years have been tough. He was arrested at school when his locker was forced open and ther sat, in individual baggies over 30 grams of pot, and various narcotics. He went voluntarily to a 30 day rehah after reporting smoking 3 times daily and selling pot to anybody that would buy. My heart was torn apart, I lost my son, it was right around Christmas time and he was’nt going to be home! Patrick’s only 17! It was the worst month of my life, I went into his room every day, called his cell just to listen to his voice everyday (rehab did’nt allow phone calls). He came home with big dreams, big hopes, full of promises. He started IOP. Shortly thereafter the changes began again, the lying, the stealing, the cutting school, the hanging aroung with the same group of pot heads. A downwhirl spiral he took, smoking pot in his room. He got kicked out of IOP,now we’re all back in hell . HELP.
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Well I know first hand how you feel.My son is an alocholic and its been since he was 16 he’s now 27.If there’s one thing I learned the hard way,You may not be able to control to much of what he does outside,because you can’t be there at all times.But it sounds like thats not really an issue for him and he’s disrespecting you,your home and family by smoking weed in the home(his room).It’s not his room when he’s stealing,lieing and disrespecting your wishes & home. It’s your home!Your going to need some tough love and believe me it’s tough for everyone!! But if you dont enforce things now in months or years he will be controlling YOUR home!You will be fighting w/ other fam. members(if not already)and worry! Your worry will be beyond heart breaking.Get yourself to Al-a-non FAST!!!! Warn him if he smokes pot in your home again you will be calling the police! and do it!Take his door off the hinges,he gives you no respect he gets no privacy! DONOT! I REPETE DONOT LET HIS FRIENDS IN THE HOUSE!! Wipe the tears & Stop the begging and get a gripp! Your gonna have to MEAN WHAT YOU SAY & SAY WHAT YOU MEAN!!And most of all do what you say! Your in for a heack of a time he isen’t gonna know who this person is AND he isen’t going to like it….at all. But if you have other fam. members at home(especially other kids) your going to have to think of their rights also.(something I didn’t do because all my focus was on my son)Not to mention the other children will watch what and how you react to all this and you don’t want them to start follwing in his footsteps for attention not to mention no one likes seeing their mom or wife crying & talking about it 24hours everyday!He will probably give it to other sis or brothers too!(IF HE HAS A CHANCE)Throw out all pot-papers-pipes-shirts-jewlery-etc that refers to pot OUT IN A DUMPSTER somewhere! Call the cops on him if he smokes pot in your home.If you find pot in the house after you tell him,call the cops! Great if they arrest him he’ll think twice before he brings it in again.And thats what you want for him to think twice.STOP giving him money too! If he’s a violent person and makes threats call the school let them know whats going on and go to the courts & file charges and get his butt in front of a judge.He’s not only smoking he’s selling pot< I’m wondering why he needs to steal? I’m sure it’s not only pot he’s doing prob. other drugs to.What’s his probation officer say about all this?? Judge isen’t going to like he got kicked out of IOP.It’s sad but the only time I got peace of mind was when my son was in jail,jail save his life several times.Most important thing to do is get all Fam. if you can to ala-non.Thats the best thing you can do. I know you love him & hate to do any of these things but drugs have taken over your baby and he’s not a baby anymore.You’s dont have to live in a Hell, you just have to learn how to handel & live with this sad time.And take it one day at a time to! Good luck!!