by Lifering Bob » Sun Jul 29, 2012 7:09 am
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Little Nina wrote:
> Hello!
>
> I am posting a reply to my own thread in case anyone else is/was in the
> same situation as me.
>
> Well, as expected I was too anxious/ scared to go to my local AA meeting.
> Instead, after some research I ended up at SMART Recovery and I attended an
> online voice chat meeting. It was amazing!!
>
> I am very new to recovery - today is just my 2nd day sober in many years,
> and although I've 'tried' quitting many times, I haven't looked into the 12
> step or group therapy type stuff before because of my social anxiety and
> unease around people. Well, in the online meeting room there was no such
> worry! I could just listen/learn if I wanted to but I was WAY more
> comfortable contributing to the discussion and even surprised myself.
> Everyone was super nice and encouraging and supportive (as I'm sure
> describes many AA meetings as well - I want to make it clear that I am not
> here trying to endorse one method over another). If anyone is nervous or
> has social anxiety like me, this may be a great alternative and/or
> compliment to this website and the AA 12 step program.
>
> Additionally, at just my first meeting I learned a very valuable tool for
> coping with urges that really worked! First time!! I'm going to share,
> although the information is readily available online.
>
> It's called "Playing the tape/ script all the way to the end".
> What this means is that when you have an urge to drink/ use, visualize the
> series of events that will transpire if you do. Really try to re-live and
> feel the experience. For me, it goes like this: If I go get a bottle of
> wine, I will drink the whole damn thing, and probably end up getting more.
> I will make a fool of myself if I am talking to anyone, or if I am just
> home alone I will get depressed. Next morning I will feel like sh*t and
> heave into the toilet for a while (fun!) and I will be in the midst of a
> panic attack (not to mention the self-hate I will feel). Now, playing out
> the scenario and really visualizing it.... I swear the urge goes AWAY for
> real!
>
> The SMART program appeals to me because it provides tools for coping with
> urges, frustration, etc and is focused on self-empowerment (is admitting
> you're powerless really helpful?) and behavioral techniques. Again, I've
> not tried AA and I am very thankful it exists and that so many people have
> benefited. However, I think the SMART program can be used together with AA
> for those of us who are ready to throw everything we can at this
> affliction. Please check it out if you're interested.
>
> Thanks for viewing! Best of luck.