by Guest » Fri Sep 18, 2009 10:02 pm
Ask yourself if you are taking care of YOU in this situation. He won't change or get help unless he wants to so you need to give up on trying to reason with him, save him, fix him or rescue him. Even if you think you are doing all you can by constantly fighting him, you are not going to find the magic words to reason with an alcoholic. Stop making him make you promises he isn't able to keep, it only hurts you. He uses his problem to guilt to manipulate you. This is part of being an alcoholic. The only thing you have contol over is YOU. Don't let him manipulate you by staying. I think you should leave and get some help for yourself. There are meetings for family members who live with or who have been effected by alcoholics. Find a meeting, reach out to others and maybe you can get strong enough to get out of the situation before that baby of your does know what is going on. And if he starts in with how he can't live without you just think about how he's living with you. Staying won't save him from himself. Save your sanity and your baby's future.